Friday 19 March
My eyes do not want to open today but I force myself to wake up. It is our last morning here. We are leaving at 11am. I want to make sure that I have time to go for a walk and take some last minute photos.
I know as soon as I am out of the shower that today is going to be a heavy day!! Martin is sitting in the chair with a blank stair, downcast. He isn’t feeling the best. This wasn’t the way we were meant to be leaving. I think in his mind we would be running out the gate of the hospital and skipping across the border. But no, we are only one step ahead of where we were. On the positive side, he can eat more than he could before... he is vomiting less, if at all. But on the negative side, he is full of fluid and can barely talk for lack of air! However, he doesn’t want to see the doctor again. After he removed his own canula thing from his arm I decided that he is on his own a little bit with where he is wanting to go medically.
We go for a walk to take the last photos. My heart is sad. I have become strangely fond of this strange backward place. I have become even fonder of my new friends. I am nervous about the next stage ahead of us!
The friends gather for one last time in the lounge area. It is time for goodbyes. Milena and her son Trifon, are also leaving with us today. Hugs and restrained tears (well at least I was fighting them back) and then we are loaded into the same van of hope that brought us here 12 days ago! The van doesn’t seem so hopeful now. A little Vietnamese man sits in front of us with his mask across his mouth protecting him from germs. They are also heading home. Milena is heading home to commence more chemotherapy. Martin still sits with the same blank despondent look.
As I look into the front and study his face I feel distraught. If we were home in Australia today would be our anniversary... we have to wait an extra day for it here. I am pensive as I look at his face and I can barely make out the full, handsome, happy face of the man I married 16 years ago. I am reminded again that my vows promised him I would be faithful in sickness and in health. It’s just that I think 16 years is still too soon to have to be going through this! I have to be honest, I look at him and wonder if we will actually make it to our 17th year...
I have booked us into a fancy hotel in San Diego. I figure that we will only ever get one opportunity to have an anniversary in this city and as much as we can’t afford it, I feel like we can’t afford not to seize the moment. We drop our bags off to the hotel and then head out for lunch with Milena and Trifon. Oh I am in love with San Diego. I can see now why Ron Burgendy was so passionate about it!! It is such a lovely city!!
We say our goodbyes to our new found friends and head up to our room. It is lovely! I am trying not to be overcome with disappointment knowing that the room will not bring any intimacy, tenderness or laughter. I deliberately booked a room with a spa bath – for me that will bring me my enjoyment!! As soon as I walk in I turn the water on. It is massive! See, that’s what I mean about hot showers/baths being a constant. It doesn’t seem to matter where you are – they still have a faithful consistency in ministering to you!! As I sit in the water I want to cry, howl, but I am unable to as Martin is too close!
I spend some time on the computer (obviously as you are getting my blog update!) and Martin sleeps a little. When he wakes up he decides to watch a movie. I resign myself to the fact that I am really very alone in this big pretty city and if I want to see any of it I have to be a big brave girl and venture out alone! We are in an area called The Gaslamp District. It is very pretty and has lots of restaurants, shops and activity! I have managed to find some nice things for the kids, walked around and seen some of the streets. It appears here that pedestrians cross the road whenever they want. If there is an intersection with a stop sign then the cars must not only give way to other cars but to people on feet as well!! It took me a little while to work it out and went against everything inbuilt, but I did it – I stopped the traffic and walked across!!
Tonight I think I will enjoy the benefits of the spa bath again. Put on my pjs, watch a girlie chick-flick and order room service!!